Dealing with difficult people is hard enough when it is your mother or your boss. Dealing with a difficult partner is another story altogether.
When confronted with a problematic partner you can do one of two things:
- Either you claim it is not your problem and do nothing, hoping the problem will go away.
- You be proactive and figure out how to deal with the issues in a more effective manner.
While you shouldn't need to take ownership of other people's problems, what you want to avoid is alienating or frustrating your partner further by stubbornly sticking to the first approach.
By taking the second approach you are being open and demonstrating that you are willing to engage with them and hopefully improve the situation.
Being part of a solution beats getting yourself down by being on the receiving end of someone else's crap. It is better to arm yourself with coping solutions and make the best of it than let it slowly wear you down over time.
If you do want to take a proactive approach you could go to relationship counseling. But that would set you back several hundred dollars a session. You could try and talk it out, but without the mediation and safe space provided by a counsellor that could turn ugly.
Another option is a step between talking it out and seeing a relationship counselor. It involves a self guided hypnosis program that will help you deal with a difficult partner much more easily.
I recommend a program called "Dealing With Difficult People" from HypnosisDownloads.com.
What Is In The Program
The program contains five downloadable self guided hypnosis sessions that you can listen to in the privacy of your own home. You can go for each session individually but the best value is in the 5 part pack.
The five sessions are:
- Stay Calm With THAT Person
- Saying NO
- Assertiveness Training
- Overcoming Fear of Confrontation
- Negative People Shield
There are also some other individual components available as well that complement this pack. These include:
- Passive Aggressive
- The Angry Bully
- The Control Freak
- The Guilt Tripper
- The Moody Type
- The Narcissist
- The Negative Critic
- Verbal Self Defense
As you can see there is plenty of scope here for some potential relationship saving action.
How The Hypnosis Works
It's easy to read an article or a book on how to deal with difficult people. It's also easy to implement those steps for a week or two but very often the habit doesn't form and you slip back into your old ways of dealing with things.
The benefit with the hypnosis is that it leaves an impression on your subconscious mind which helps make the changes much more long lasting.
Each download is about twenty minutes long. They begin with a little bit of explanation and then launch into the guided meditation. This gets you in a nice and relaxed state, which is when new impressions can be made on your subconscious.
It doesn't matter whether you logically accept the statements that are made during the session. When you open your subconscious up to new impressions it doesn't matter whether you logically accept or reject them. If you listen to the downloads several times you will be surprised to find that the new perspective really does shine through.
If you really want to stop feeling helpless in the face of an onslaught from a difficult person then I really encourage you to consider trying the "Dealing With Difficult People" pack.