"Double Your Dating" Review
This "Double Your Dating" review covers the free email newsletter and ebook by David de Angelo.
There are many newsletters and books that operate in a similar vein but there is one thing that strikes me about this one. David DeAngelo's "Double Your Dating" does not just focus on pick up techniques. He brings a very sociological and psychological background to his work and he understands the fact that men are not men in our society anymore.
The fact that men have been emasculated and weakened is a key reason why so many struggle with women. Women like real men, not weaklings. But society turns us into weaklings and then we wonder why we fail with women. We do not follow our masculine instincts because we have been drilled into the idea of being "modern and sensitive."
There is another famous author in the "Pick Up Artist" society called Neil Strauss who argues that improving your dating skills falls into three categories.
The first he says is what you do. The second who you are. The third is the ability to seamlessly integrate both into any social situation.
I am not a fan of the Pick Up Artist philosophy. The whole idea revolves around manipulating social situations to force the outcome you want. In other words getting attractive women who would not otherwise give you a second glance into bed.
The problem is it does not help you create a proper relationship with someone.
My philosophy is that if you exude the qualities of a man you will have no trouble attracting women for either casual sex or for long term relationships, whichever it is that you want. Given this I believe you should improve yourself for the sake of becoming more of a man. Rather than improving yourself for the sake of becoming better with women.
The Overlap Between Improving Manliness and PUA
There is however a significant overlap between these philosophies. Particularly in Neil Strauss' second category of "who you are."
Pick Up Artists and Dating Gurus talk about something called "Inner Game". Instead of pick up lines, dress styles or routines Inner Game revolves about who you are and becoming the best person you can be. Because the best person you can be is more attractive to women.
There is so much to be learned in this regard from Pick Up Artists and Dating Gurus. The problem I have with them is that I disagree with their underlying philosophy. I think you should improve yourself for your masculinity for your own sake and then forming relationships with women will take care of itself, rather than making women the focus.
David DeAngelo's "Double Your Dating" is interesting because his philosophy sits somewhere between that of a Pick Up Artist and my own. I have read a lot of his material and I can see how his mindset has evolved over time.
His earliest writings, including "Double Your Dating" were more from a Pick Up Artist perspective. He got into the whole game because he wanted to date with and sleep with more women. But as he matured and learnt along the way he gained a greater perspective. Once he had effortless success with women and it was no longer such a big deal he started thinking about the whole thing from a different light.
He came to see that being a powerful, confident and masculine man is the natural state of human males. But society makes men into little "wussies" as David describes them.
The inability of modern men to be successful with women is because we repress our natural masculinity. Much of David's later writing addresses these issues. This is why he is one of my favorite writers in the field of dating advice for men. He understands the key issue that society keeps men as boys.
David doesn't just tell you how to approach a woman at a bar. And he doesn't just teach you Inner Game so you can be more confident. He puts the whole thing in a social perspective in the way I like to. It is a mindset and an underlying philosophy that you just don't get anywhere else.
By helping you embrace your masculinity and grow confidence in your own skin you become better with women, but that is not the only benefit. Becoming more of a man is also crucial when you want to go beyond merely dating women and actually forming strong long term relationships.
Going Beyond The Words On The Page
There is an inherent flaw however to reading dating advice and "Double Your Dating" is no different. The words on the page mean nothing by themselves. David reveals things that were major revelations for him. But that was because he went through the process of experiencing them. Because of the experience he had an internal transformation and his attitude was never the same.
Just reading "Double Your Dating" won't have the same effect for you. The internal transformation will not happen for you without the experience.
It is for this reason that this book gains a lot of its bad press. David DeAngelo promotes his idea called being "cocky and funny" as a way of engaging with women. While the concept makes great sense just reading it does nothing for you. You have to absorb it. A lot of people don't like the fact that it doesn't give you tangible ammunition to go into a conversation with women.
I prefer the more philosophical side even though it is not for everyone. We are all social creatures and should be able to engage with people in conversation. Exactly what you say will take care of itself as long as you are coming at it from the right perspective. Changing your attitude and fitting what David says into who you are makes more sense to me than generic ammunition.
This book gives you the freedom to actually try things in the real world. It breaks down the social conditioning that makes you afraid and gives you a new lease of confidence.
It will help you navigate a woman's psyche and it will reveal things to you about your own thinking. Becoming conscious about why you think certain things frees up the possibility for you to change your patterns of thinking.
Because how you think about women and dating is the key to achieving the results you want. Our thoughts drive our actions. Our beliefs and perspectives can either cripple us or set us free.
"Double Your Dating" is David DeAngelo's introductory ebook. He has quite a staggering array of audio-visual and written material. However it is better not to delve into that until you understanding the basic building blocks of his philosophy revealed in "Double You Dating." That alone will have some quite brilliant revelations for you.
The "Double Your Dating" ebook spawned the "internet dating guru" phenomenon. It is a bestseller for a reason. David DeAngelo knows what he is talking about and he has helped many men.
Give it a look and maybe it will work for you too. When you visit his site you can sign up for the free email newsletter for some excellent dating tips and to see if you like his material. If you do then consider purchasing the "Double Your Dating" book.