When dealing with emotional insecurity the ideal situation is to learn to overcome it.
However that can be a process that takes time. In the interim learning to control emotional insecurity can be extremely helpful.
You can have a very good understanding about the logical reasons why you shouldn't have insecurities.
But if they are affecting you at an emotional level then all the logic in the world can quickly fly out the window.
Accepting Your Emotional Insecurity
Accepting is the first step to managing and controlling and ultimately leads to overcoming. We all have insecurities so you might as well acknowledge them. At the same time none of us can overcome them with the flick of a switch, it takes a process of self discovery and subconscious reprograming.
Given this situation it makes sense to accept yourself warts and all, even with the insecurities. If you fight against them you will only get sucked deeper in a spiral of negativity, doubt and self-loathing.
Emotional insecurity rears its head at times when you are being driven strongly by the heart and very little by the head. Neither the head nor the heart should ever dominate too much, you want to maintain a balance. This will be ever fluctuating but it is something to be aware of. When you driven by the heart with a negative frame of mind insecurities can take over. By taking a step back and reframing your perspective you can bring your head back into play and bring some restraint to your emotions.
Look To Yourself Not To Others
When you are feeling a heightened sense of insecurity you look to others for reassurance. This calms the insecurity and brings the emotional level back closer to balance. However this can only ever be a temporary state of affairs and another trigger will send the insecurity skyrocketing again.
Emotions are not determined by the outside world, they are determined by how we react to the outside world. You have the ability to regulate your emotional reaction. When you understand this you stop looking to others for reassurance and start looking at yourself to find the source of the insecurity. By looking in the mirror you keep control of the emotion and avoid lashing out.
Don't Cover Up Your Insecurities
This is something we all do. Whether it is spending money, drinking, smoking, having sex, buying a car. Think deeply about your behavior patterns in response to your insecurities. You cannot deal with them if you pretend they don't exist and paper over them with false materialistic facades of self worth.
Look After Yourself
This is a basic and easy to do one. The chances of having an insecure outburst increase when you are tired, stressed and under pressure. Maintain a healthy lifestyle including fitness, good nutrition, adequate sleep, plenty of water and a low stress environment.
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Overcoming insecurity is crucially important if you have issues with fear and jealousy in relationships. Emotional insecurity is not something that a healthy man should have, especially insecurities in relationships. Being insecure is something that can be overcome. Do not succumb to fear. Constant paranoia over whether or not your woman is going to cheat on you is immature. You need to learn how to stop being paranoid and how to stop being insecure. But to do so you need to own the problem, stop making excuses and put the onus on yourself to sort it out.
You Need To Get Over Your Ex
Sometimes it's easy to get over your ex girlfriend and move on after a break-up. It's easy when you ditch the girl, wipe her from your life and carry on. Even when she ends it you may come to realize quite soon that it's a good thing she is out of your life. But sometimes it can be difficult to get over your girlfriend. Almost every man has had the experience of being dumped and not being able to let go. This attachment and inability to get over your ex can last for years and while it continues it affects every relationship that you enter.