Scared Of Your Girlfriend Leaving You? Here's How To Stop It

If you are scared of your girlfriend leaving you then you shouldn't be.

Of course it could happen, I'm not saying it won't, but living in fear of it won't help you at all.

The reality is that unless you get married, one of you is going to have to end the relationship at some point. But that isn't a reason to worry.

Bad things happen and life is tough, but you have appreciate what you have in the moment and avoid getting too caught up thinking about the worst case scenario.

It's not easy to do, I know. I regularly have to stop myself from getting wound up about the worst case scenario, but it's crucial to being able to live a peaceful and happy life.

So enjoy the fact that you are in a relationship, plan and hope for the best and accept that you can't control everything.

How To Stop Being Scared Of Your Girlfriend Leaving

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1. Learn To Get Over The Insecurity, Anxiety and Clinginess

Being insecure about your girlfriend leaving and responding by being overly clingy is actually more likely to drive her away.

Nobody wants to be with someone who is suffocating them and constantly seeking reassurance.

You have to relax into the relationship and trust that things are working out.

If you are scared she is going to leave then you need to confront your insecurity and paranoia head on.

Stop trying to win her approval, stop depending on her alone for your emotional wellbeing and override your fearful thoughts so that you always assume the best.

2. Learn Your True Value As A Partner

If she has decided to be with you then there must be a reason. Find out what it is, be proud of it and keep doing it.

Instead of worrying about the fact she might leave, spend your energy focusing on all the reasons why she is with you.

If you don't feel like you have any value then go and get some. Make the necessary changes in your life so you can be proud of who you are and know that your girlfriend has a catch.

Be a man worth sticking around for.

If you are scared she might leave the question really is what are you going to do about it? You can get needy and insecure, or you can become a better man.

3. Don't Beg Or Whine Or Voice Your Insecurities

Relationships are supposed to be where you can be vulnerable and share your insecurities.

There is however one exception and that is when your insecurities are based on the relationship itself.

If you don't trust your girlfriend, are afraid she is going to cheat or leave you, then you do yourself no favors by bringing that up.

Nothing your girlfriend says is going to put you at ease. This is a problem you have to face without her help.

By talking about it, all you do is demonstrate your lack of trust for her and drive a wedge between you.

She doesn't want to hear again and again about how you are afraid she is going to leave you. What she wants is a man who is comfortable with who he is, confident in his value as a partner and has faith in the relationship.

If you whine, beg, seek reassurance and display your insecurity on this issue you will slowly drive her away.

4. Make Her Feel Loved

Women want to feel loved.

One of the best things you can do to avoid her leaving is to be a good partner. That means trusting her and not overwhelming her with your relationship fears, but it also means making her feel loved.

If you can bring that to the table as a partner then this helps you to offer amazing value.

I'm not talking about too much soppy romance. I'm talking about doing the basics right.

Things like learning her love languages and expressing love in that way and responding to her bids for attention and affection.

5. Accept Your Lack Of Control

Being in love makes you vulnerable and puts your heart in her hands.

There is no other way about it. If you are going to play the game then this is the risk you take.

At the end of the day there is no way you can ever force her to stay with you. She is always going to have the power to walk away if she wants to.

A weak insecure man responds to this reality by clinging on tighter and tighter. An emotional stable man understands that being in love puts him in a situation he can't control and he accepts that.

He knows his heart is in her hands but he has faith in himself, faith in her and faith in the relationship. He knows he can't control everything so he does his best to be a good partner and makes peace with the uncertainty.

You have to learn to accept the lack of control. Being scared of your girlfriend leaving is understandable but you have to embark on the relationship journey regardless.

If you need some extra help getting over the fear of your girlfriend leaving, you could try the self guided hypnosis program that I recommend called "10 Steps To Overcome Insecurity In Relationships."


Your girlfriend has the power to walk away whenever she wants. She won't if the relationship is right and you are a good man and a good partner. But she will always have that power.

It's uncomfortable but you have to live with it. Being insecure, needy and clingy will only serve to make things worse, not better. Constantly seeking reassurance means you aren't able to trust her.

If you can control the insecurity and understand the value you have in a partner and what she sees in you, then you can put thoughts of her leaving out of your mind and enjoy the fruits of a wonderful relationship.