Overcoming insecurity is crucially important if you have issues with fear and jealousy in relationships.
Emotional insecurity is not something that a healthy man should have, especially insecurities in relationships.
Being uptight and insecure is something that can be overcome. Do not succumb to fear.
Constant paranoia over whether or not your woman is going to cheat on you is immature.
You need to learn how to stop being paranoid and how to stop being insecure. But to do so you need to own the problem, stop making excuses and put the onus on yourself to sort it out.
Learning to deal with this fear and male insecurity will give you confidence, peace of mind and less stress. It will also stop your woman thinking you are a little crazy for being so paranoid.
So you're punching above your weight and have caught a stunner? It's easy then to get caught in the trap of thinking she's going to leave you at any given moment. But think about it:
So stop worrying and concentrate on making her happy. This will aid you in overcoming insecurity. As long as you can do that she will stay by your side. She will only stray if she isn't getting what she needs from the relationship. And a paranoid partner isn't what she needs. Your constant fear will more likely be what drives her away.
I had a bout of paranoia when I was in my first serious relationship as a teenager. But she never cheated on me, she was absolutely smitten. Paranoia comes from a fear based mindset where you have a negative opinion of yourself. I thought I wasn't good enough for her, so I thought she must be cheating.
But I was good enough for her, I just needed to realize it myself. I needed badass confidence. Overcoming insecurity was easily possible in that relationship but it wasn't something I even considered.
Sure it's possible that your woman will cheat. But it's also possible that you will get hit by a bus or that your mother is actually a Russian agent or that your next door neighbor is a Roswell alien.
But you can't live your life in fear. Overcoming insecurity is about overcoming a pessimistic outlook that probably affects you in more than just your relationships. It probably isn't an isolated problem.
Assume your woman isn't cheating and live your life based on that assumption. If on the rare chance you find out she is then you will have to deal with it. But you can't live your life expecting the worst to happen. It's just not badass.
Overcoming insecurity in relationships will not only make your life better but will mean your woman can have a life as well. There are not many things that annoy a woman more than a controlling man. She will have male friends. And she will have girl's nights out where she perves on good looking men.
Accept it. That doesn't mean she's going to forget about you and spread her legs for anyone. You're her man, she wants you. But she has the rest of her life to live as well. She needs that freedom and you need to give it to her.
As a young man you will have female friends. And some of them are probably so smoking that you would ravage them if you could. But you won't because you love your woman. It's the same for her.
And you need the freedom to be able to have a laugh and see a stripper on your mate's stag do without your woman getting all crazy. So give her the same respect.
If you live in constant fear of her leaving you or cheating on you it is more likely to happen. She will know your feelings, know your fear and she will lose respect for you because of it.
Overcoming insecurity will actually prevent her from leaving. Because if you are insecure you will try and hold onto her tighter. And the tighter you grab the more likely you are to push her away and into somebody else's arms.
A woman won't put up with paranoid behavior for very long. Eventually you will lose her. And all it would have taken to keep her was a positive attitude and no fear.
Respect that she is honest. Trust her. And she will stay. Life your live with a positive mindset and just let go of all that tension. Life is good.
Be badass, be the man. Stop thinking that you are lucky to have her and start thinking that she is lucky to have you.
Stop Being Selfish: Insecurity in men often comes from being selfish and possessive. Stop demanding all of your woman's time. She needs to spend time with friends (male friends as well) and you need to trust that that's all she is doing.
Stop Trying To Win Her Approval: If you are insecure and fear your woman will leave you there is a tendency to try too hard to win her approval or be over protective. You start going overboard with the flowers and romantic dates. This just makes you look like less of a man and like a groveling little child. If she is with you then you already have approval. So act like it.
Don't Depend On Her For Your Well Being: Is your woman everything to you? Is she the only thing you live for? Not only is that sad but it is an easy path to jealousy. When she is the only thing you've got you fear letting go of her. Secure men don't depend on their relationship for all their satisfaction in life. They have other things that bring them happiness. So if their woman leaves it won't crush them or tear them in two. Get the rest of your life in order and overcoming insecurity won't be such a big deal.
Don't Be Afraid To Talk About Exes: When I had my first girlfriend she had already had three before me. I was insecure about it and didn't like talking about it. But I grew out of that. The people I learned from were my Dad and stepmother. They talked about exs all the time. The main reason for that was they had kids with their ex so the ex was still part of their lives.
But I saw no jealousy and no insecurity. I came to learn that an ex is a part of a person's life. They are a part of all those past experiences that make a person who they are in the present. They are just as much a part of you as every other friend you have had. It doesn't mean talk about them all the time, just don't be mortified if they come up in conversation. Secure people can handle it. Overcoming insecurity means accepting the past for what it is - history.
Assume The Best: You can tie yourself up in knots about something that isn't even true. Overcoming insecurity means being an optimist and assuming the best.
Go Deeper Into The Mind: If you really struggle with insecurity then you need to consider some method that goes deeper and replaces negative thought patterns with positive ones. This could be psycotherapy, meditation or hypnosis. There are quite a few options out there. One good option is a self guided hypnosis program called "10 Steps To Overcome Insecurity In Relationships."