Mar 10, 2018
Why Jealousy And Insecurity Are Not The Same
Jealousy and insecurity are two closely related yet different things. Understanding the differences can help you overcome the trauma of these emotions.
The key difference is that insecurity is an internal state of mind, while jealousy is something that is triggered by external circumstances.
The reason jealousy and insecurity are related and often confused, is because if you are insecure you will experience more jealousy. This is because your internal insecurity makes you more sensitive to external events that might trigger a jealous reaction.
Feb 17, 2018
Life Is Not Fair
Bill Gates' number one rule is "Life is not fair. Get used to it."
I have always found this a tough pill to swallow.
I have suffered all throughout my teen and adult life a very common affliction for young men in the modern age.
I suffer from the expectation that life should be easy and comfortable and that I deserve this as of right.
However I have learned and am still learning that life is not fair. It's not easy and comfortable. Life can be hard and sometimes, unbearably so.
Jan 15, 2018
Scared Of Your Girlfriend Leaving You? Here's How To Stop It
If you are scared of your girlfriend leaving you then you shouldn't be.
Of course it could happen, I'm not saying it won't, but living in fear of it won't help you at all.
The reality is that unless you get married, one of you is going to have to end the relationship at some point. But that isn't a reason to worry.
Bad things happen and life is tough, but you have appreciate what you have in the moment and avoid getting too caught up thinking about the worst case scenario.
Nov 20, 2017
Don't Quit Your Job To Travel The World
Don't quit your job to travel the world.
Yes, I know it is all the rage these days. It's a rebellion against what is perceived to be drudgery and an embrace of what is perceived to be freedom.
The problem is that it's not all it's cracked up to be. And this is from a guy who has done it.
In fact it's downright dangerous to the development of authentic masculinity.
Does that sound like I'm taking it a bit far?
Oct 21, 2017
9 Reasons Why You Should Get Married Young
Until quite recently I never really advocated one type of relationship over another.
I wouldn't have pushed casual dating, a long term relationship or marriage as the "thing you should be doing."
My attitude has always been to help you have better relationships - whatever type of relationship you were in or aspiring to be in.
That is still the case, but my personal attitude has changed slightly. I'm now all about marriage and I think that's what all young men should aspire to.
Sep 21, 2017
Can Men And Women Just Be Friends?
There are a few scenarios where a young man might ask this question:
- Your pursuit of a girl has failed and you are in the friend zone
- You have had a recent break up and are wondering whether you should be friends with your ex
- You have a female friend and you have started developing feelings for her
So can men and women just be friends? The is answer is yes, they can. But that doesn't mean they should. It is fraught with difficulty, danger and arguably isn't really worth it.
Let me explain.
Aug 26, 2017
How To Talk To Your Girlfriend's Friends
Learning how to talk to your girlfriend's friends is crucially important.
They can be the gatekeepers to a serious relationship.
Think about it. If they like you, they are going to rave to her about how wonderful you are and this will boost her image of you.
And if they don't like you? They are going to sow the seed of doubt into her mind.
Meeting and winning over her friends is a crucial testing point, so here is how to do it right.
Jul 15, 2017
7 Products That Will Improve Your Relationship
Money doesn't buy marital happiness.
In the long run only time, effort and a willingness to work it out can do that.
However there are certain relationship products that can work as an aid to your time, effort and willingness.
They can't do it all for you, but they can be a useful tool to help you out.
Jun 24, 2017
Fear Of Being Cheated On: 7 Tips To Overcome The Anxiety
11-15% of women will cheat at least once in their lives.
That might sound like a scary fact but there is a bright side. It means that 85-89% of women will be faithful.
Being cheated on is a horrible thing that can leave a man broken. But if you live your life in fear of something bad happening, it gets in the way of enjoying the good stuff.
Overcoming this fear isn't about getting assurances. It is about opening yourself up to risk, being vulnerable and accepting that some things are just outside of your control.
These seven tips will help you deal with the fear of being cheated on, so you can enjoy life and hopefully enjoy a great relationship with one of the 85-89% of honorable women.
May 22, 2017
8 Clever And Easy Ways To Judge A Woman's Character
It's important to be able to judge a woman's character without falling prey to emotion.
After all you are essentially screening her for her potential to meet your relationship goal, whether that is something casual, long term or even marriage.
Chemistry and sexual attraction can easily blind a man to a woman's personality and character.
The adrenaline and dopamine rush you experience early on in a relationship can make you overlook major issues or red flags if you are not careful.
While it can be hard, it is best to do some serious evaluation early on in the relationship before you get too serious. This saves you getting too emotionally involved with someone who is actually a bad match, as it becomes much harder to break up later on.
Apr 22, 2017
How To Deal With An Angry Girlfriend
An angry girlfriend is unpleasant, especially if she is angry with you.
But anger is a normal part of the human experience. It doesn't help you to dismiss her anger or worse overreact to it.
A key relationship skill is learning how to deal with each other's negative emotions.
Dealing with each other when you are angry should be right at the top of the list.
If you can let her vent and calm down, while at the same time not allowing yourself to absorb too much of the negative energy, then your relationship will be happier and smoother.
Mar 23, 2017
Shy Around Girls? Here's How To Overcome It
Being shy around girls is very common.
You are not alone if you feel shy.
In fact the vast majority of guys get nervous when talking to women they like, even if they appear to be super confident.
Putting yourself out there is hard and requires real courage.
The fear of rejection cannot physically harm you but it can mean a hit to your self esteem. So it's understandable that you hold back.
However the reality is that rejection is inevitable, so you have to learn to cope with it. You may never stop being shy, and that's okay, but you have to find away to shift your thinking so that you are able to override the fear and talk to girls anyway.
Feb 26, 2017
How Society Emasculates Men And How To Stop It Happening To You
The world you live in is not conducive to producing men.
Instead it emasculates them.
Your growth from boy to man is dragged out over a long period of time in an unclear way leaving your manliness stunted.
What society ends up with is men who think and act like adolescents.
The good news is that you don't have to let these forces shape you if you become aware of them and choose to override them.
It's incredibly difficult when you live in a world where manliness is discouraged, but it is possible and very exciting.
Feb 12, 2017
Working Out With Your Girlfriend: Why You Should Train Together
Is working out with your girlfriend a good idea?
The answer is mostly yes, but it depends.
It's awesome to share a passion and spend time together.
Not to mention the extra motivation and regular workout partner.
Research shows that couples who join a fitness program will stick at it longer than those who go it alone.
However you have to consider that too much time together may not be the best thing and perhaps you have different fitness goals and schedules.
Jan 22, 2017
14 Important Relationship Truths Every Man Should Know
Relationships are really hard. Sometimes they are so hard that you wonder whether or not you are better off in or out.
But don't rush to move on. The truth is that sacrifice, struggle and compromise is all part of it.
It's the stuff you have to give up in order to get the good stuff.
It doesn't always make it easier, but sometime reminding yourself of some basic relationship truths can give you the perspective you need to keep moving forward.
Jan 08, 2017
Should You Embrace The Sexual Double Standard?
The sexual double standard is the idea that men and women are held to different social standards when it comes to sex.
Men are praised for their sexual conquests, while women are criticized for being too easy. Men are studs, while women are sluts.
While some argue that this is changing, research shows that it isn't going away.
So the question for you is: should you accept the sexual double standard as it is, or should you do your part to try and change it and encourage society to be more accepting of women who sleep around?
Because this ultimately comes down to whether you personally are going to accept a girl's promiscuous history, or expect her to have shown some restraint.
Dec 18, 2016
Everything In Life Is A Trade Off: How To Cope With This Unfortunate Reality
When you are young and the world is your oyster anything is a possibility.
It's a wonderful time full of hopes, aspirations and dreams.
But then as you get older reality sets in.
Anything is still a possibility, but you realize you can't have everything.
It's a difficult time in every man's life as you realize that you aren't getting any younger and you can't squeeze it all in.
The reality is that everything in life is a series of trade offs. The choice is yours but every choice has consequences.
Dec 05, 2016
The Ultimate Guide To Dealing With A Jealous Girlfriend
Dealing with a jealous girlfriend is an exercise in subtlety and tact.
She drives you mad with her insecurity, but the more you either react or withdraw, the worse it seems to get. It feels like you can't win.
If you want the relationship to survive you have to support her, without antagonizing her and making things worse.
And at the same time you have to protect yourself emotionally, keep living your life and avoid getting sucked into her negative spiral.
It is a fine line but something that is very possible if you love this woman and are committed to survival of the relationship.
In fact having a jealous girlfriend is not all bad. It shows she cares and wants to keep you around and can't bear the thought of losing you.
Nov 21, 2016
17 Signs You Have A Narcissistic Girlfriend
If you feel like narcissistic women are everywhere then you aren't delusional.
Narcissism is on the rise and this is particularly the case for women.
If you were dazzled by a girl when you were initially dating, but now the relationship has turned crazy, you might just have a narcissistic girlfriend.
While they are great to date at the start because of their charisma and energy, they can be tough work in a long term relationship.
We all have narcissistic traits to some degree (it's a spectrum), but someone with full blown narcissism actually has a personality disorder.
Nov 07, 2016
7 Reasons Why College Relationships Are Hard
College relationships are hard, but not impossible.
While it's common to think college is all about hookups and casual sex, researchers found that first year college students are actually twice as likely to have sex in a relationship than as a hookup.
So if you are at college and in a relationship you aren't actually in a tiny minority like you may think.
Others out there, like you, are trying their best to make it work against some serious odds.
So if you are battling away there I think it's good to have a healthy perspective on why college relationships are particularly hard.
Oct 24, 2016
Why You Need To Take Her Off The Pedestal
The ability to take her off the pedestal is the biggest difference between men who are successful with women and men who are not.
It doesn't matter if you are single and looking or in a committed relationship.
Treating attractive women like people and not like idols to be worshipped is critical to your success.
You still respect them and treat them with dignity, but you don't get hung up about them or let them hold power over you while you grovel at their feet.
All you do is treat attractive women the same way you treat everyone else.
Oct 03, 2016
How To Find A Good Woman
Are you struggling to find a good woman?
You are looking for a long term relationship but only encounter shallow flaky women.
You've had problematic relationships in the past with women who threw up all sorts of red flags and you were lucky to get out.
This time you want to do it right and find a girl that is marriage material.
The problem is, you can't seem to find her.
Sep 18, 2016
Cooking For Men: Why Every Man Needs This Basic Life Skill
Being able to cook is a fundamental skill that every man should have at least a basic grasp of.
It is a key plank in being independent and self reliant and ensures you have the edge when it comes to health and fitness.
As a bonus, watching men cook is something that turns women on.
43% of millenial men are now cooking, and spending 49 minutes a day doing so.
The question is, are you one of them?
Sep 04, 2016
How To Stop Being Paranoid In Your Relationship
Are you constantly paranoid in your relationship?
Do you worry that your girlfriend might cheat on you or leave you?
Do you feel like this relationship is too good to last or that you aren't good enough for her?
Perhaps you have acted clingy or controlling.
Perhaps you have become withdrawn and given her the cold shoulder, emotionally punishing her for a problem that doesn't exist.
If so, you are not alone. Anxiety disorders affect 18.1% of adults in the USA and 15-20% of the population have frequent paranoid thoughts. It's not all that uncommon.
Even if you don't have a clinical disorder, anyone can experience anxiety or paranoid thoughts in a relationship.