In order to overcome insecurity in relationships it is necessary to explore the way our mind has come up with our impressions of the world. Ever since we are born we are constantly being exposed to other people's worldviews. Stories and influences come to us from our parents, relatives, friends, teachers, the media and a variety of other sources.
All these influences mold our own view of reality and the world around us. Society is such that most people grow up with an objective view of the world. They believe that the world is how it is and that life throws them a set of circumstances they must deal with.
Few people emerge with a worldview of subjective reality, fully aware of their innate nature as a human being to shape the world around them through the power of their own thought.
We are not victims to the whims of the world. We create our own lives. This understanding has a major impact on how we overcome insecurity in our lives.
"As you sow so shall you reap."
This piece of wisdom does not apply to agriculture. It applies to the mind. If you have a positive frame of mind you will perceive life to be an enjoyable experience and you will generate positive outcomes in life. If you have a negative frame of mind and perceive life as somethingto be suffered through then you will generate corresponding negative experiences.
The task here is to change what you sow in order to reap something different. This is how you overcome insecurity.
Those who believe they have no control over their lives succumb meekly to insecurity when faced with it. Those who understand that they shape their reality with their own thoughts take positive action to replace insecure thoughts with trustworthy thoughts.
If you are plagued by insecurity you have two choices:
- You can do nothing and continue to be plagued by it, or
- You can accept responsibility for your thoughts and take action to change them.
I strongly suggest you adopt the latter position. It then becomes a question of how do you overcome insecurity in your mind and replace it with a more positive mindset.
If your insecurity is mild then simply internalizing the fact that you are an active agent of change in your life is enough. When you understand your experience in life is subjective and can be shaped by you then that sparks a change in the way you think and the way you live.
This is sufficient for many people but for some it is not enough. You understand that you have the power to change your thought patterns and thus your life, but your old negative thought patterns are so deeply entrenched that they will not budge.
In this situation you need additional help. There are many options you can take. You can go down the Western focused psycology path. Or you can go down an Eastern spirituality path. Neither is better than the other, in fact they compliment each other wonderfully. Each seeks to delve deep into the mind and replace negative thought patterns with a positive outlook on life.
These are some options that you have for more advanced means to overcome insecurity:
- Neuro Linguistic Programming
The problem with "seeing a professional" is that the cost creates a barrier for many people. Naturally you would rather save your precious medical dollars for serious physical issues like cancer. Maybe you would see a shrink for post traumatic stress disorder or serious depression. But forking out for a shrink for an issue like overcoming insecurity would be an unnecessary luxury for many people in today's economy.
So are you supposed to just suffer?
Not at all.
There is an intermediate step between doing nothing and going for full on professional treatment. You can get a relatively inexpensive (compared to several sessions with a shrink) self guided hypnosis program.
I recommend a program called "10 Steps To Overcome Insecurity In Relationships" from HypnosisDownloads.com.
What Is In The Program?
This program is specifically designed to help you overcome insecurity in relationships. It contains ten downloadable self guided hypnosis sessions that you can undertake alone in the privacy of your own home. It comes with a comphrehenive instructional PDF to guide you through the process.
The best value for money is to go for the full 10 step pack for $147, however each component is also available individually for $14.95.
The ten steps of the program are:
- Insecurity In Relationships
- Overcoming Jealousy
- Stop Obsessive Thoughts
- Overcome Fear Of Rejection
- Overcome Fear Of Abandonment
- Give Your Partner Space
- Love Your Imperfect Partner
- Independence In Relationships
- Trust Again
- Be More Romantic
As you can see it covers all the bases and issues that could possibly arise with insecurity. It is a comprehensive program that will deliver change in your life.
How The Hypnosis Works
The PDF is an invaluable resource by itself. It explains the theory behind why you feel insecurity and elaborates on each of the above points. But the problem for you is that theory is not enough to change your inner thought processes. You need something deeper to help you overcome insecurity.
That is where the hypnosis come in. Each download is approximately twenty minutes long. They begin with a brief explanation of each point. Then the guided meditation begins. The speaker will get you to lie down and take you through some relaxation exercises to get you into a nice relaxed state.
The relaxed state is important because this is how new impressions are made on the subconscious. The idea with the hypnosis is that you embed in your subconscious a new perspective on life that is based around trust and security. You need to be relaxed for this to happen.
After the relaxation phase the speaker will deliver some powerful positive statements. In state of hypnotic relaxation these statements will make an impression on your subconscious. It doesn't matter whether your logical mind accepts them or not. If they make their way into your subconscious emotional brain then the goal has been achieved. Then your life will begin to reorient itself around these new positive perspectives.
It is recommended you listen to each download at least once a day for seven days to see the best progress. This is because it takes repetition for the new perspective to make an impression on your subconscious. Once is not enough.
I encourage you to actually do take a week on each step. There will be a temptation to rush but it will be detrimental to you in the long run because you will not make the subconscious impressions as deeply. If you do take a week on each step then this becomes a ten week program. That may seem like a long time for a cure but think about it - how long have you been suffering up until now? Be patient and take the full ten weeks.
Just imagine life on the other side. A secure trustworthy new you who has overcome insecurity. That should be motivation enough to follow the program right.
The program also includes progress checking surveys. They get you to fill out a basic questionaire before you begin each step and after you finish each step. This will show you whether or not you are progressing, how you are progressing and what still needs work. It is an invaluable source of feedback and can really be quite insightful.
Be aware that this program is not necessarily going to provide results for everyone. First of all you cannot just purchase it and expect that to do the trick. You have to actually start it and see it through to the end. Without someone to hold their hand many people will not see it through and will remain stuck in their bad habits.
There are also going to be some people who are so deeply insecure that they really need the help of one on one sessions with a professional.
However if you aren't wallowing quite that deep then this program is for you. If you think that you have the willpower and discipline to pursue this everyday for ten weeks then this program is for you. If you are truly committed to overcoming insecurity and starting a fresh life then the "10 Steps To Overcome Insecurity In Relationships" is for you.