Self esteem activities often seem to be quack show, feel good, puffery type things that offer little concrete benefit.
Here is my list of self esteem building activities that you can do by yourself, in private and actually have some positive impact.
The key theme running through all of these activities is to reorient yourself to a positive perspective.
Instead of focusing on what you don't want or who you don't want to be, you turn it around and focus on what you do want and who you do want to be.
Exercise and Weightlifting
There are numerous studies that advocate exercise as a way to boost self esteem and banish depression. They are all focussed on the endorphins and biochemical reactions etc.
That's all well and good but I see a much bigger reason to do some serious exercise. You can set goals and work to achieve them with physical exercise and there is nothing that can stop you apart from your own self sabotage. Exercise forces you to overcome your demons.
With most other goals there are other factors that are out of your control. For example if you want to play Major League Baseball you have to compete against all the other players and selection through the ranks relies on the whims of coaches and managers. Likewise if you wanted to run for public office there are many other variables at play such as your opponent and your electorate.
With exercise it is just you and your body. There are no excuses. Set a difficult yet achievable goal and then work hard to achieve it. It will do wonders for your self esteem.
Goal setting has been touched on in exercise but in this case it goes beyond just setting goals in the fitness arena. Often in life people spend there energy trying to run away from the things that they don't like, whether it be a job, a relationship or any other life circumstance.
The art of goal setting forces you to stop and think about what yo do want and then work towards that. Moving in a positive direction helps build self esteem.
Journaling is not just something for people with low self esteem. It is something that is practiced by many successful people in all walks of life. It is a good thing to study the habits of successful people and follow their lead.
If you are in a very dark place then keeping a journal is a way for you to organize and reflect on your thoughts.
If you are looking for a self esteem activity that gives you a boost then journalling can help you clarify your goals and vanquish your demons.
This is the only real fluffy one on the list of self esteem activities but if you can get into this habit then your life will change dramatically. Conscious gratitude means you actively think about the things that you are grateful for rather than thinking about the things you don't have.
It is all too easy to take for granted the blessings we do have as our culture tells us to demand more. But take a step back and be actively grateful - it will give you a new lease of life.
Closely aligned to goal setting is the vision board. This is where you make a board up with cut outs and images of things you want or the lifestyle you want to lead.
Rather than wishy washy goals this forces you to crystallize what it is you want. By creating it in image form and looking at it on a regular basis it helps to put in place the subconscious drive to achieve your goals.
Feeling like you are on the right path is an excellent self esteem boost.
A Mind Movie is much like a vision board except in digital movie form. You put together a series of images and affirmations into a short little clip and watch it on a daily basis.
This is a more powerful way to soak in your goals on a regular basis and is an excellent self esteem activity.