Is working out with your girlfriend a good idea?
The answer is mostly yes, but it depends.
It's awesome to share a passion and spend time together.
Not to mention the extra motivation and regular workout partner.
Research shows that couples who join a fitness program will stick at it longer than those who go it alone. 1
However you have to consider that too much time together may not be the best thing and perhaps you have different fitness goals and schedules.
Whether you can make it work is a highly personal thing. I think working out with your girlfriend is a great idea, but you have to be a compatible fit in the gym.
If it doesn't work out, then train by yourself or with a buddy instead.
The Benefits Of Working Out With Your Girlfriend
1. Better Motivation To Get To The Gym
Fit people have a schedule and they stick to it, even when they don't feel like it.
Having a workout partner, particularly a live in one, will stop you from flaking out or making excuses to not hit the gym.
Working out together also motivates you to each stay in shape for the other. It's not just about looking good, it's about looking after yourself both physically and mentally.
Working out is fun, makes you happier and gives you more energy. These things can only be good for your relationship.
2. An Accountability Buddy During Your Workout
The benefits are not just about making sure you get to the gym.
Having your girlfriend train with you will also help make sure you complete your workout at a high intensity.
It's easy to get lazy in there when you are by yourself, but you will be able to keep each other motivated.
3. A Wider Range Of Exercises
Individuals often stick to their comfort zone in the gym. The stereotypical guy might spend most of his time with heavy weights, while the stereotypical girl might spend more time on pilates, core and stretching.
One great reason for training together is that you can expand the range of exercises that you do. She will benefit from lifting more weights and you will benefit from spending more time on core and stretching.
When I workout by myself I find it easy to skip the stretching at the end of the workout and dash off. When training with a partner, it's easier to stay and do it.
While training together you can do traditional exercises side by side or one after the other. But you also can do cheesy but cool couples exercises like the ones in the video below.
4. You Will Improve The Quality Of Your Relationship
Training is character building stuff. Challenging yourself, testing and beating your limits is serious personal development work.
Participating in this together and supporting each other will strengthen and develop your bond.
Studies have shown that couples who train together feel more satisfied and more in love with their partners.
Conversely having a lazy and unit partner is likely to impact you in a negative way. Being around someone is unmotivated will affect your motivation levels.
That's why establishing a dual fitness habit is one of the best things you can do for the survival of the relationship.
The increased energy you have from training will also improve your sex life.
Things To Be Wary Of When Training With Your Girlfriend
Working out with your partner can be awesome but it may not work in your relationship.
An alternative is to train together some of the time but not all of the time. Or you could regularly do fun outdoorsy physical activites together while doing serious gym sessions on your own.
While I recommend you give it a go with your partner, these are some of the things you should be wary of:
- You have wildy different fitness levels
- You have very different fitness goals
- Your gym schedules are very different i.e. what time and how often you go
- You like the solitude of the gym as time out from your partner
While you will have a lot less flexibility than if you train by yourself, most of these issues can be worked through like any other - with communication and compromise.
You won't know if working out with your girlfriend is a good idea or not until you give it a go.
I recommend you try it with an open mind and see how you go.
The motivation and accountabilty benefits are awesome, but best of all is the shared bonding that you get to do.
If it doesn't work for you two then you can always go back to working out alone.
- Wallace, JP, JS Raglin, and CA Jastremski. "Twelve Month Adherence Of Adults Who Joined A Fitness Program With A Spouse Vs Without A Spouse". The Journal of sports medicine and physical fitness September.35(3) (1995): 206-13.